Chocolate-Covered GABRIELLE UNION currently stars in HBO drama BEING MARY JANE, produced as stars in forthcoming film BREAKING IN, has authored a best-selling memoir WE'RE GOING To NEED MORE WINE, has a fashion line with NEW YORK & Company, and; covers the new FEEL YOUR BEST At ANY AGE Issue of REDBOOK Magazine!!!
Here are some interview interludes:
On the approach she decided to take with writing her book;
“The book reflects what my conversations with friends and my therapy sessions sound like. I might go from the worst thing that has ever happened to me to talking about irritable bowel syndrome—that’s the way my mind works, that’s the way my life is. I thought it would be disingenuous if I didn’t lay the book out that way.”
On how her own personal development has affected her professional accomplishments:
“I’ve struggled with feelings of worthlessness for a very long time,probably until about last year, even though I had a body of work and I’m pretty accomplished. Over the years, I’d been approached with ideas for things like my own clothing line, and I’d have those momentary feelings of I got picked! Yay! And then it was, Oh God, they’re going to figure out that I have no value. Part of that is I didn’t have my own style. I was always looking to others for outside validation, so I would’ve basically been like,‘Well, who’s popular right now? Let’s try to look like that person.’ If you don’t have your own style, how are you going to design a line?”
On creating a HAPPY LIST:
“I started working with a life coach who asked me to list things that make me happy, and one of my top three was imitation crab! You’re not on the right track if you say imitation crab. So the life coach started to ask questions: ‘What don’t you like? What annoys you? Have you ever experienced euphoria?’ Examine those moments and you’ll start to figure out who you really are.”
On righting old wrongs and making amends with others:
“Part of my homework for becoming my best self is owning up to my b.s. I have to acknowledge how I’ve hurt people and make amends. I started with those closest to me, but there’s a line of people to get to. I was at a Janet Jackson concert and ran into an executive I used to work with and just had to say, ‘I’m so sorry.’ I included in the apology specifics, so they knew I understood why I was wrong.... Then I listened about the thing that I did, which I didn’t even realize I was doing. I’m not saying this is easy, but it’s led to my being incorporated back into some people’s lives. Not everyone will make up with you, but that has to be OK.”
On killing negative vibes:
“When someone starts gossiping, I’ll be like, ‘I can’t.’ It stops people cold. They’ll ask, ‘What? What can’t you do?’ Then I’m like, ‘Listen to this. Yeah, I can’t. It’s sooo negative. Can we go back to your kid shitting? Because that was funny.’ You have to do it with a wink and a nod, but it shuts people down. I used to just do it if the conversation was centered on a loved one—you’re not talking shit about my friends or my family members in front of me. But now it’s in general, because when you let that into your space, whether or not you’re going to spread it or agree with it, your silence makes you complicit in negative energy, and that comes back.”
It's here!!! Time to come together and celebrate with my leading ladies of @betmaryjane the official launch of my spring collection with @nyandcompany. The theme of this collection is #alltogethernow, celebrating all shapes, sizes, ages and life experiences. Now get shopping and express your most fabulous self!