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Sooooooo,,, a certain young lady with whom you have only been casual friends, reaches out for you and suggests that you should meet, or; go out for coffee, drinks, light lunch, etc.
She says, "We should hand out, sometime." and you reply, "You're right, we should."
Should YOU prepare for an actual DATE, or; just hanging out with a gal pal???
GQ Magazine Journalist SOPHIA BENOIT has done the heavy research to help ALL Of US to determine Is THIS A DATE, or; Are WE Just HANGING OUT - 5 TIPS For MEN:
The DATE*ISH CIRCUMSTANCES:
She invited you to a nice-ish restaurant at night. Which is like 5/8ths of what a date is. The other 3/8ths, if you’re wondering, are equal parts alcohol and saying "It’s a date." The most obvious sign that something is a date is that someone invites you (and just you) to dine with them (and just them.) This alone is not a date: There is, of course, such a thing as friends going out to dinner together alone. It’s just a little unlikely if both of you are single, you’ve only recently started hanging out, and you’re in a restaurant with tablecloths. If it looks like a date to the waiter, it’s probably a date.
Which brings us to our second Blue’s Clue: Did she did suggest you split an appetizer, which is, in many cases, not only the entrance to the meal, but to intimacy itself? If someone suggests splitting an appetizer they might as well have said, “I’d also like to someday split the cost of a pet-friendly one bedroom in Los Feliz with you.” Likewise for offering you a sip of her drink, or offering to split a cab to her home (obviously)
SUBTLE CLUES For YOU:
If your companion slips away to the bathroom and returns looking better than they did before, it’s a date. Did they fix their hair? Reapply makeup? Wipe old makeup out from under their eyes? Most women are certainly not going to waste an extra coat of lipstick on Just a Friend. Yes, yes, makeup is Not For Men, but this is all about a time factor: I’m not going to stay in the bathroom a little too long—to the point where my guy friend thinks I’m probably pooping—just to get lipstick right. But I might risk that for a date (society has us women convinced that if you just look the right way, he’ll like you back). Now, of course, this one is going to be difficult for the layman to spot since most men can’t tell the difference between curly and wavy hair and think that Margot Robbie doesn’t wear much makeup. (She does.) (They all do.) However, if your Maybe Date comes out of the bathroom with her hair up instead of down, or even moreseo down instead of up, she might be trying to look her best for you—the person she thinks obviously knows he’s on a date.
Okay next, did she laugh at your jokes? Men, unfortunately, aren’t that funny. At least not in comparison to how funny they think they are. Sorry; I know that hurts to hear. We still love you. Some of you. There are like two good men and they’re both Gregg Popovich. The point is: if she’s laughing at most of your jokes it’s because we’ve all been practicing fake laughter since nigh-infancy when it made our fathers feel better about themselves, and now we use it for our idiotic boss Randy, who keeps quoting Office Space to the young interns who were born the same year that movie came out. We the people (who date men) are all deeply, incredibly aware of what men mean when they say they’re Looking For Someone With a Sense of Humor. We know.
The SIGN Of TOUCH:
Here, however, is the biggest sign: did she touch your elbow? This sounds utterly ridiculous. Utterly. All of dating is ridiculous and the sooner you learn that, the better. Now have a friend lightly touch your elbow. See? See how intimate it feels? It feels like flirting. Really, any physical contact will do, but the elbow touch is classic. “Do you want another drink?” elbow touch. “Hahaha I love the movie Elf, too” light forearm touch. That’s a date, for sure.
Still NOT Sure???
Just ASK her.
HAPPY MAKE IT HAPPEN And MAKE IT A DATE RELATIONSHIPS FRIDAY!!!
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