VH1 RealiTV series BASKETBALL WIVES: LA star MALAYSIA PARGO speaks on RealiTV Fame, Family, and Co-Parenting as she covers the new issue of ROLLING OUT!!!
Here are some interview highlights:
With everything that’s going on in your life, your recent separation and divorce, why is co-parenting important?
Co-parenting is the most important thing because, first off, you broke a home, and kids realize it, especially when they’re of age. Like my kids, say for my 9-year-old, all he remembers is mom and dad together. Then once you get into school, you see other kids and they have their mom and their dad. You want to make sure they don’t feel like they’re missing anything. As of right now, my ex is actually here with us now.
We co-parent well. We can stay in the same household. He makes sure that when he has a break that he comes in and helps me out with the things I normally do on my own and it’s great! My kids are soaking it up, and they love it! He takes Little J to soccer when he can so that his friends, not to say “show and tell,” but his friends can see that he has a father, as well. It’s great for my kids. It feels good to me that my kids are smiling and they’re happy and they get to see us both in the same environment. We get to go out to eat together. We can do birthday parties together and stuff like that.
After divorce, it’s not about you. It’s about the kids. For me, I just learn to make sure my kids are whole.
I’m not going to say it was just like, “Boom! Let’s be friends,” because it was not. It’s been a long time coming. We had to work at getting to this point to realize it’s not about us anymore but about the three lives we bought into this world. We have to suck it up, forget whatever our feelings are and be adults and talk about it and work it out for the greater good of our kids.
Any advice to young women dating athletes or celebrities?
It’s going to sound very weird when you read this: “Keep in contact with yourself,” but you got to make a daily plan to keep in contact with yourself to find out who you are, what you are, where you want to be. Keep contact with your dreams. Keep God first so that he can keep you good on your journey. Because in the lifestyle that they lead, they meet different people. You get different energies. You’re moving so fast. You have so much money. You kind of forget what you are when you’re cleaved into a marriage or just a couple. You become one. You take on a lot of things that he wants to do, his dreams, his aspirations, and his goals. You kind of leave yourself behind. I would say my best advice is to keep in contact with where you want to go and whom you want to be so that you won’t forget.
How has your life changed since “Basketball Wives L.A.” first aired?
Just the facial recognition: it kind of changed me as far as like when I really am having a bad day I just kind of stay inside. I’m already a homebody as it is, but now I feel like I’m more of a homebody. Other than that, I feel like maybe just the opportunity to tell my story and just to reach out to people I wouldn’t normally reach out to [around] the world. It’s great for me. God said that if you can at least tell one person your testimony and they can learn from it and help then you’re helping me. I feel like that’s a sense of greatness for me. It’s therapeutic to share it as far as healing. But, at least someone else can see that I’m going through this stressful time and I’m making it out. Hopefully, they can have the strength to make it out, as well.
What has being on reality TV taught you about fame?
Being on reality TV sometimes actually I forget that I’m on TV. So when I walk into a room and people are starring at me, I’m like, “What the hell are they looking at?” [giggles]
I really do because I find myself very much a down-to-earth person, very humble. I’m not full of myself. I will talk to anybody as long as you talk to me and have some sense. It really taught me that you can still be the same person whether on Monday night, Tuesday night, or Wednesday night. You don’t have to be an ass to get respect. I feel like I talk to everyone. I’m still the same person. I’m still the same person to my friends and my family. People that I don’t talk to, haven’t talked to in years, but if they see me on the street I’ll definitely hold a conversation like we’re back in Compton a long time ago. It really hasn’t changed me at all. I don’t plan for there to be any change in me.
Is there any loyalty between friends when it comes to reality TV?
In my case, yes. Like I said, I’ve been on reality TV with two of my really great friends. We make sure that we stay loyal to each other to a fault. No matter what it is, we have each other’s backs. We love each other and we will do everything that we do outside the TV on the TV. We don’t play it up for you guys. We make sure that we’re 100 with each other. So, therefore, if we like keep it how we would keep it off the camera, it will be completely authentic. We don’t have to lie or answer questions later on for something . . . It’s just completely authentic. For me, I think loyalty is everything.