BRONX, NY-native VH1 LOVE & HIP HOP star ERICA MENA bares her soul and nearly bares her right breast as she covers the new issue of ROLLING OUT!!!
Here are some highlights from the interview with the luscious LATINA:
Anyone who watches “Love & Hip Hop” knows that you have moments where things get heated with arguments and fights. How do you react to seeing yourself act in such a manner?
I know how it happened in real time and then I also know that things in life just happen. People are going to judge you and hate you no matter what. I’m constantly going through the transition of love and hate at the same time and it just makes me who I am. I’ve finally come to the realization that because of the platform, I have to kind of take a
Last season, you were in a relationship with Cyn Santana. Some people will say, “Erica Mena was in love with a woman a few months ago, how can she be ready to marry a man?” How do you address such comments?
People have misconceptions about everyone I’ve dated. Last year, it’s like “oh, all of sudden, she’s gay.” No, I’ve been bisexual. In the past, I’ve been very
You’ve been friends with Bow Wow since meeting him on the “FreshasImiz”
When that whole “106 & Park” kiss happened, we were both seeing other people and that kiss put us in the doghouse. So we were kind of confiding in each other. I realized that he is a man who really knows me and I’ve never had someone to fully accept me for who I am, flaws and all. I think it just happened naturally with us. We were at that point of really wanting to settle down, but the people that we were with at the time just weren’t fitting us. So it just happened and I discovered that this was the person that I was really supposed to be with.
But people have said, “how can she be ready for marriage when she was just involved in a publicized relationship a few months prior?” It seems to have happened rather quickly. What do you say to people who think this is a publicity stunt?
I think people are trying to put pieces together in other people’s lives so much that they are not living their own life. Cyn and I have been broken up for a while, I just hadn’t publicly come out about it because I’m on reality television. So to keep you tuned in, I had to keep things under wraps. So in this season of “Love & Hip Hop,” there’s a lot of catching up for the fans to do. And I think they will see how everything transpired and will get a better understanding.
You’re very open sexually. What turns you on the most when it comes to sex?
Being with Bow [Wow], he’s so dominating and that just turns me on because I’m usually the dominating one. I’m a Scorpio, so I call the shots. It’s different to have someone that you can finally be submissive to. So dealing with a woman like me, it’s kind of like, ‘can she be tamed?’ It’s all a matter of, are you man enough to tame the woman. And there’s a way to be assertive, but still give that embraceable nature that makes a woman kind of be submissive to you, that’s very powerful. But in order for a man to feel like a man, a woman has to give him the most respect. But in order for the woman to give you that respect, you kind of have to demand it and make her embrace you for what you are doing to her for her to respect you. So it’s a catch-22. I think men are scared of being men these days.
Why do you think some men are afraid to be men?
From my last relationship with ‘B—- Dollaz’ [Rich Dollaz], he was just one of those dudes who would always run home to his mama. You know, it just shows that you’re a punk at that point. And that also goes for respect. You can still be a man and have authority and get your point across without being disrespectful. I think a man should “think like a man.”
Now that you’re engaged, what do you think men respect most about women?
Men love women who aren’t babies, who don’t nag and you don’t have to stroke their egos. You just kind of have to be sure of yourself. If you feel good, I’m telling you every man in America will know you’re feeling good.