The way to know if your relationship will last is to observe your partner’s past and present behavior and to learn the proven skills to make marriage work.
MADAME NOIRE sees so much of the damage caused by people blindly connecting — rushing through the stages of commitment and not creating the solid basis a true relationship needs — she always welcomes the chance to do pre-commitment counseling.
YOUR TANGO also asks the tough questions that, in the excitement of a new romance, the couple may not have considered.
Here are 7 QUESTIONS YOU SHOULD ASK To KNOW If YOUR RELATIONSHIP WILL LAST:
1. What is your definition of commitment?
Whether you know it or not, you and your partner will define your relationship. If you don’t know what your relationship means to both the of you, you risk repeating past mistakes, getting stuck in uncomfortable roles, or fighting about what a healthy relationship is.
2. Have you discussed finances?
Next to sex, money is the biggest generator of problems, arguments and resentment in long-term relationships. Couples tend to assume that money should be pooled, but it usually isn’t that easy. A disparity in income can mean struggling about who pays for what, or whose income determines your lifestyle.
3. What about household responsibilities?
If you’re not yet living together, take a tour of each other’s homes. Drastically different decorating styles, neatness and organization levels can become sources of argument, and so can housekeeping and chores. If you have different tastes, it may require a lot of creativity and negotiation to decorate a joint home in a way that makes both of you comfortable.
4. How close are you to family or friends?
If one of you has a lot of family or friends, and the other does not, find out what those relationships mean. Where will you spend holidays? If there are family members who have problems, such as addiction or mental illness, how much will that impact your relationship?
5. How do you handle anger and other emotions?
We all get upset from time to time. If you are usually good at diffusing each other's anger, and being supportive through times of grief or pain, your emotional bond will deepen as time goes on.
6. How do you show love to each other?
Sharing what actions and words mean love to you may be surprising. Even if it's a struggle, discussing how you give and receive love will improve your relationship.
7. How well did you discuss these very questions?
Asking yourselves these questions are excellent tests of your ability to define and work out problems. Constructive discussion that leads to a mutually satisfactory solution means you know how to solve problems in your relationship.
HAPPY ASK THE QUESTIONS So YOUR RELATIONSHIP CAN LAST RELATIONSHIPS FRIDAY!!!